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No Fifty Shades of Satanic Verses, Then?

Salman Rushdie on Fifty Shades of Grey:
“There are some books I really don’t like…that Fifty Shades of Grey is really bad. How can stuff like this get published? The grammar is awful! I mean seriously, how can people get turned on when the grammar is so bad? It’s certainly a deterrent for me!”

Love that man, and thanks to Emma for sharing this gem.

Christie

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Fifty Shades Abusive… Duh

 

I’d love to think that maybe other people are being convinced by what I write, but I have the feeling that I’m preaching to the choir.

That being said, my feelings about Fifty Shades of Grey have been, once again, validated.  This time, a woman who was interviewed on talk show “This Morning” spoke about her own Fifty Shades style relationship – and they weren’t fond memories.

According to the UK Daily Mail , the mother of two recalled her relationship with someone who was charismatic, charming, and worldly-seeming… and was also abusive and controlling.

Here’s a quote from the article:

Speaking to Eamonn Holmes and Ruth Langsford, she said: ‘We started seeing one another more but I was very concerned that he wasn’t very affectionate, he was aloof and didn’t seem to be very warm.

‘I don’t know why, because he was very charming, there was an air of arrogance and he was very clever with words. He talked me round.’

E.L. James’s novel has become a best-seller but many worry that men are taking advantage of the sex it portrays

When Sarah questioned why he wasn’t very tactile, he explained that he had experienced a troubled childhood and asked Sarah to be more patient with him.

‘He initially asked me if I had ever been tied up and I said I had never done anything like that.

‘It was very gentle to start with, trying new things, it was exciting. It wasn’t at all abusive but things gradually progressed and became more and more frightening.’

Sarah was left feeling as though she had led a very naive life and not indulged in what other people did, or so Tim made her believe.

Dr Jo Helens, a behavioural psychologist said: ‘Because he was so charming, he lulled Sarah into this sense of “it’s fun, it’s role play”

‘But this man is an abuser, he made Sarah a victim by talking all of the control and making her feel rather foolish.’

Sarah added: ‘At first I felt safe but then he asked me to write a contract stipulating what I had to do.

‘It was a game, I didn’t take it seriously, he made it theatrical.

‘But then the games were becoming very extreme and painful and I was afraid.’

Following on from their intimate adventures, Sarah was left in pain for weeks with serious injuries.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2174824/Fifty-Shades-Of-Grey-Real-life-Anastasia-Steele-warns-dangers-abusive-relationship.html#ixzz210GFyLJ1

Romance novels, erotic novels, they’re fiction.  In that genre, people don’t get STDs.  They don’t end up getting hospitalized or killed by an abusive partner.  Because it’s a beautiful fantasy (well, sometimes), but it’s a fantasy.  There’s a reason it’s called fiction, people.  Take some ideas from it, fine.  Imagine it, okay.  But entering into a relationship and expecting it to work out like a storybook… is not going to give you a happy ending.

Christie

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Fifty Shades of Danger

Some of my worst fears about Fifty Shades of Grey‘s influence are coming true.

According to Brandon Wade, CEO and founder of SeekingArrangement.com , the site traffic is up.  Way up.  What is SeekingArrangement.com ? It is a self-proclaimed “Elite Sugar Daddy Dating Site”.  Eep.  The site, even without the Fifty Shades association, is creepy enough.

Now, however, new ladies are signing up, using “Fifty Shades” as a descriptor for the type of relationship they’re looking for.  Men are adding it to their profile.  Oh good.  That much easier for people to find dysfunctional relationships.  And daddy issues.  These people are strangers, ladies, remember?  No matter how much the site promises background checks.

Here are the results of a disturbing interview bostinno.com had with Wade on the topic:

Wade, a former MIT student, said 24.8% of the sites active female members—representing 186,000 around the world—specifically want to find the same arrangement that the book’s main character Anastasia Steel has with lover Christian Grey.

“One of  the things we noticed a few months ago was that the term ‘Fifty Shades’ and the two main characters’ names started appearing in people’s profiles. It got us really curious to what was going on,” said Wade.

The book describes the relationship of the couple as two people “[who] embark on a daring, passionately physical affair.” But it gets much deeper than that. The novel explores the fiery fling between Grey, a rich entrepreneur with a love for bondage and handcuffs, who is prone to spending money and buying gifts for Anastasia, in exchange for her time.

“We noticed a parallel between the story and the type of arrangements people look for on the website,” said Wade. “It is a sugar daddy, sugar lady story….it’s a very similar story to relationships that happen on seeking arrangements.”

Of the 1.6 million people with profiles on SeekingArrangements.com, the term “Fifty Shades” is mentioned 28,382 times; Christian Grey is mentioned 23,102 times; and Anastasia Steel is mentioned 18,281 times, according to statistics provided to BostInno.

“The results were quite enlightening. A huge percentage of the women were really into this stuff,” he said.

Since the beginning of this year, 12.6 percent of all sign ups were connected to the erotica novel, both male and female. When users sign-up, they are asked a series of questions, and Wade said they used this data to connect the new members and their preference for “Fifty Shades.”

“[We] ran stats to find out how much the words were used, and asked members when they logged in if they had read the book and how many were there because of the book,” he said.

Wade said while these types of arrangements are still frowned upon by the general public, more people have become open to the idea since the release and explosive sales of the novel.

“I think we are the number one beneficiary in terms of the book. People are also selling more handcuffs and other types of sex toys, too, I’m sure,” he said.

Beyond the drastic increase in references to the book, or number of new sign ups, what has truly intrigued Wade since the books hit shelves is the fact that so many people read “Fifty Shades” in public places.

“It is becoming more mainstream,” he said.

Here are some other members interests based on stats that tie to themes in the book:

  • 79% of women members found the idea of succumbing to a ‘Dominant’ male like Grey a turn on.
  • 90% of male members said they found the idea of woman being a ‘Submissive’ like Steele exciting
  • 43% said they were more likely to use handcuffs during role play.
  • 47% wanted to experiment with blindfolds and other bondage gear.

 

One very smart lady of my acquaintance made the point that books allow you to feel the experience of danger, without actually being in it (she still doesn’t want to read Fifty Shades).  At  this point, however, the danger may not be imaginary any more.

Christie

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Shades of Grey (no fifty)

I’m hoping to divert readers from the disaster that is Fifty Shades of Grey (movie coming soon, ack!) to books with plot and character development.  Shades of Grey, by Jasper Fforde, sprang to mind as a sneaky way to divert readers into a genuinely great story, with lots of room for imagination on the part of the reader.

I just finished Fforde’s (it’s really hard to spell that correctly, my dictionary-like brain protests) first five novels in the Thursday Next series.   This series is a thing of joy for the bibliophile, and if you don’t go out and read it, you’ll be kicking yourself – or I can do it for you.   Literary references, terrible puns, time paradoxes, and dodos in sweaters.  And literary references.  A book-loving heroine who packs a gun.  And literary references.  Also explanations for bananas, platypuses (platypi?) and sea horses – finally.  And literary references.  As far as I’m concerned, these books are without flaw.    Be forewarned: the footnotes in the book are fairly essential, much like a Terry Pratchett novel, so this is best read as an actual book, not on e-reader.  E-readers’ achilles heel is the footnote.  The first book is The Eyre Affair.  Go get it now.  I’ll wait.

Alrighty, now that that’s done, let’s move on to Shades of Grey.  The setting for the book is a dystopian society where the social hierarchy is determined by your colour perception.   You are not allowed to marry people who are opposite you on the colour wheel, e.g. reds and greens… can’t you see the tragic Romeo & Juliet love story coming?    People who are colour blind are called “greys”, and are the untouchables of the story.  Doctors cure people by showing them colours, and some shades of green are used recreationally as drugs.

I loved the absurdity of the setting, but Fforde does a good job of keeping the story going, not just focusing on the details of his bizarre world.  You cheer on the young hero of the story, whilst simultaneously wondering why spoons are banned.  One of the things Fforde is great at is plonking down characters in a ridiculous environment, and yet still having them act like people would, albeit people living in a really, really strange land.

Fforde is a fantastic writer, and a book-lover himself – which means he writes for readers, not other writers, if you know what I mean.  So go get Shades of Grey.  And the other Thursday Next books.  Maybe if we all go buy good books, the people who buy books based on decor and popularity will actually start reading them.

Christie

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